I don’t drink alcohol. I never really have.
I exercise 5-6 times a week, a habit I developed as a adult.
I rarely eat out, preferring to cook all my meals.
I haven’t owned a TV since 2010.
Does what I choose to do make you uncomfortable? If so, ask yourself why.
I don’t say this to be boastful or to put anyone down.
I’ve noticed that a lot of people have opinions about the way others live their lives. If it doesn’t fit within their modus operandi, they’re quick to label someone wrong, weird, or even insane. They have a penchant for letting you know what you should or should not be doing. They justify everything with the fact that it’s not “OK” or “normal.” “Everybody does …” is their favorite song.
Let’s take a minute to define OK and normal.
Google the meaning of OK and you’ll find that besides being used to express agreement or approval, it’s a term used to express something that is “satisfactory but not exceptionally or especially good.”
Normal, on the other hand, is defined as “conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected” or “the usual, average, or typical state or condition.”
Do you want to live a non-exceptional or average life?
If so, that’s fine. Please do what works for you. However, please don’t try to hinder those striving for more and better.
We all have to decide what brings us joy and value and then go out and take the steps to bring more of that into our lives. You have to orchestrate the life you enjoy living and work to make it a reality. In doing so, you have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone. You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Even more so, you have to get comfortable with making others uncomfortable, particularly those closest to you.
This is a lesson I’ve had to learn myself and one I need to remind myself of. When you choose to opt out of mediocrity, whether that’s by paying down debt, taking control of your health, or even cutting down the hours in front of the TV, you’re choosing to go against the norm. I guess in effect, your naysayers would be right in saying you’re not normal. Friends, that’s not a bad thing. Consider it a compliment. Normal is debt ridden. Normal is unhealthy. Normal is stressed out. Who needs normal?
Don’t let people’s words deter you from doing what you know is right for you. Sometimes they’re simply projecting their insecurities upon you. It’s important that you keep your Why at the forefront of your mind and to have an internal locus of control. When you have your Why, you’re not susceptible to the thoughts of others, including the marketing and advertising that constantly surrounds you.
Refuse to let other people dim your light. The only permission you need to change your life, or reinvent yourself, is self-permission. Permit yourself to create and accept what brings you joy, peace, contentment and gratitude.